Did you know that there is one critical difference between average businesses and super-successful businesses?
Many of the success experts who are quoted time and time again refer to this one common characteristic as the big differentiator between being mediocre and actually unlocking your true potential.
Take a look at the following popular quotes and see if you can identify the common thread that ties them all together.
"I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."
--Henry David Thoreau
"Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration."
--Thomas Edison
"The secret of success is constancy to purpose."
--Benjamin Disraeli
"Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal: my strength lies solely in my tenacity."
--Louis Pasteur
All these quotes reference one magic principle...
Consistency!
Consistency is the key. It's up to you to be consistent with your actions every week to realize your true potential. You have so much talent and purpose inside you, just waiting to be unleashed. But the world can't benefit from your gifts until you share them consistently.
As my friend Mike Litman says, "You're either consistent or you're non-existent!"
That's so true, especially in the world of business. Over time, the consistent doers always win out over those who have a "stop and go" approach to their work.
Mike Litman is the bestselling author of Conversations With Millionaires, and he has spent a great deal of time interviewing the most successful entrepreneurs on the planet. If you've heard of Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, or Jim Rohn, then you can appreciate the level of credibility from which Mike says the above quote.
So what can you do to be more consistent week after week? Well, here is a list of a few suggestions to get you started:
1) You want to develop the habit of writing down your daily "big rocks" on a piece of paper everyday. You can do this either first thing in the morning or as the last activity before you go to bed at night.
Note: This concept was reviewed in last week's newsletter as part of Step Four. Take another look there if you want a quick refresher.
2) Commit to wisely use the "Power 15" to your advantage every morning. The "Power 15" is the first 15 minutes after you wake up in the morning. To get your day started right, you want to feed your mind with positive, uplifting material during this time. This information can be in the form of books, audios, videos, or whatever works best for you.
If your mind is telling you right now that you don't have time in your busy schedule for this, then here is a simple solution for you:
Wake up 15 minutes earlier.
Seriously, this is a very important success habit that can help you gain true consistency and unstoppable forward momentum toward your goals. This habit could just be the extra building block you need to unlock your true potential and take your business to the next level.
As an example, the other morning I watched a Les Brown video called "You Gotta Be Hungry!" while I exercised on the treadmill in my basement. And do you think that had a positive impact on my day?
You bet it did!
3) Pick one thing you want to do differently this week and do it! This can be one of the first two suggestions above or it can be something completely different. Ask yourself this question:
What is the one new habit that you can start doing this week to improve your business and/or your life in general?
After you have written down a few answers to this question, pick the one thing that will most empower you and make you feel much stronger next week at this time. Then put this item in your day planner or scheduler and plan ahead to make it happen this week. Not only will this build your business momentum and your consistency, but it will also build your overall confidence and belief in yourself.
"Deliberately training yourself into good habits requires stern self-discipline at first. But once those habits become second nature, the payoff is considerable:
Good habits save effort, ease routine, increase efficiency, and release power." (taken from the Executive Exellence newsletter and Supervision magazine, Vol. 59)
The habit-builders listed above will help you to gain consistent momentum and head toward your goals at a much faster pace. Do something new this week and commit to start trying out just one of these success habits.
You'll be glad you did!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Matt_Zembruski
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Sunday, May 24, 2009
Monday, March 30, 2009
What Life is About
A Long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.
Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible. When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.
Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I pushed myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."
The above story is similar with the journey of our Life. We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our health, time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love to do. One day when we look back, we will realize that we don't really need that much, but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.
Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition. Life is definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life.
Life is a balance of Work and Play, Family and Personal time. You have to decide how you want to balance your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts.
Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence. So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile, Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balance lifestyle and enjoy Life!
Author: Unknown; Source: www.inspirationstories.com
Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible. When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.
Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I pushed myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."
The above story is similar with the journey of our Life. We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our health, time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love to do. One day when we look back, we will realize that we don't really need that much, but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.
Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition. Life is definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life.
Life is a balance of Work and Play, Family and Personal time. You have to decide how you want to balance your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts.
Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence. So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile, Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balance lifestyle and enjoy Life!
Author: Unknown; Source: www.inspirationstories.com
Friday, March 13, 2009
A New Approach to Time Management - By Nowshade Kabir
In today’s hectic life style it is becoming increasingly difficult to manage time effectively. There are so many things to do, and so little time! Internet is supposed to be the ultimate means for bringing efficiency to your life. The information that you need, the business tool you use, everything is now at your finger tip thanks to ubiquitous access to the Internet. But did it make your life easier? Most of us will tell probably not. On the contrary! Easy access to virtually any information lures us to spend way too much time on the Internet. How to regain total control of our precious time?
Time is a relative concept
In the physical world time indeed is a relative matter. In Einstein’s Special Theory of Relativity time’s relative value was exemplified in the paradox often referred to as “Paradox of Twin”.
Consider that in a not so far future time there lived a pair of twins – Rob and Mary – somewhere on the Earth. Mary decided to visit a star eight light years away, stop there for a while and come back. The technology at that time allows her to travel at a speed of 80 percent of the speed of light on a fast spaceship. She made her trip and came back to the Earth. What will she see? While by Earth’s time 20 years have passed since she left, she has aged only 12 years and definitely looked younger than her twin.
Maybe we don’t see this relative physical characteristic of time in real life, one thing we all know is when we are busy with things that interest us, we feel that time passes faster and when we are engaged in a boring or dull job, we feel that the time is passing slowly.
Before we try to manage our time effectively we should have a better perception of our own time and how we spend it. The following exercise will help you get a better picture of your own time:
For three consecutive days write down everything you do from the moment you woke up and till you go to bed. Keep your pen and paper always handy. If necessary set alarm for every two hours to remind you so that you don’t forget to log. The idea is to get a thorough picture of your daily activities. After three days take a look at your logged data and on a separate list write down how much time you spent in an average day on each activity like sleeping, commuting, reading, working, socializing, etc.
Spending time on important things only
Now take a look on all your activities from a different approach. Assign each of the activity to one of the following groups: Urgent and important, Not urgent but important, Urgent but not important, Not urgent and not important.
Urgent and important: These are the priority number one tasks. Making your sales call, preparing for tomorrow’s exam and paying bills due today – these are some examples of urgent and important works.
Not Urgent but important: There are works that are not so pressing, but you understand by procrastinating them you are impairing your growth. These are the tasks on which you should emphasize your efforts most. Setting goals, planning your activities, and writing your business plan are examples from this group.
Urgent but not important: We spend a substantial amount of time on works that are pressing but does not have any real impact on achieving specific objectives. You have to chair a meeting that your colleague has requested as he is sick is an example of this type of activities. Often tasks from this group are requests from others or workloads you have willingly taken but deep in your mind you know that these tasks really don’t carry any personal value for you.
Not urgent and not important: These are the real time wasters. Reading junk mails, browsing through the Internet aimlessly, making unnecessary calls to friends are some of the common activities that should be avoided.
Since in the core of effective time management lies the idea of doing things that are important to you, you have to figure out how to select those tasks.
Goal setting
Goal setting is an absolute necessary method for personal planning. The process of goal setting gives you the real picture of your life – what you are now and what you are planning to be in the future. To understand which tasks are really important to you and will help you achieve success you have to set long term goals and then subdivide them to short terms goals. Once you did this, write all the things you have to do to reach these goals, steps you have to take and time span necessary to act upon them.
Use a planner
Move all these necessary activities to a planner. Identify the milestones. These should be your sub-goals. Specify how much time you will need to reach those milestones. Insert the tasks from the list you have created to the planner. Make weekly to do list based on your planner. Choose no more than three to four tasks for each of your goals in a week.
Develop daily to do lists
Your daily to do list should incorporate one or two most important activities from your planner. Your daily to do list should be scheduled loosely. Make sure that you don’t spend too much time on work related tasks. Over working will burn your enthusiasm quickly and bring you back to your previous life style.
In the beginning you might feel overwhelmed with the quantity of tasks you plan to do. To build your self confidence and manage time efficiently choose five not so difficult tasks each day and promise yourself that no matter what you will finish these five tasks. If you continue this for three weeks, it will become a part of your daily habit and build your self trust.
Every time during the course of the day if you have to do a task which is not from your list, ask yourself this question, "Is this really important to my goals?" If the answer is "Yes!" then go for it, if not get back to your list.
Time Management strategies help us to stay motivated and create a balanced lifestyle. The above mentioned methods are effective when followed scrupulously.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nowshade_Kabir
Time is a relative concept
In the physical world time indeed is a relative matter. In Einstein’s Special Theory of Relativity time’s relative value was exemplified in the paradox often referred to as “Paradox of Twin”.
Consider that in a not so far future time there lived a pair of twins – Rob and Mary – somewhere on the Earth. Mary decided to visit a star eight light years away, stop there for a while and come back. The technology at that time allows her to travel at a speed of 80 percent of the speed of light on a fast spaceship. She made her trip and came back to the Earth. What will she see? While by Earth’s time 20 years have passed since she left, she has aged only 12 years and definitely looked younger than her twin.
Maybe we don’t see this relative physical characteristic of time in real life, one thing we all know is when we are busy with things that interest us, we feel that time passes faster and when we are engaged in a boring or dull job, we feel that the time is passing slowly.
Before we try to manage our time effectively we should have a better perception of our own time and how we spend it. The following exercise will help you get a better picture of your own time:
For three consecutive days write down everything you do from the moment you woke up and till you go to bed. Keep your pen and paper always handy. If necessary set alarm for every two hours to remind you so that you don’t forget to log. The idea is to get a thorough picture of your daily activities. After three days take a look at your logged data and on a separate list write down how much time you spent in an average day on each activity like sleeping, commuting, reading, working, socializing, etc.
Spending time on important things only
Now take a look on all your activities from a different approach. Assign each of the activity to one of the following groups: Urgent and important, Not urgent but important, Urgent but not important, Not urgent and not important.
Urgent and important: These are the priority number one tasks. Making your sales call, preparing for tomorrow’s exam and paying bills due today – these are some examples of urgent and important works.
Not Urgent but important: There are works that are not so pressing, but you understand by procrastinating them you are impairing your growth. These are the tasks on which you should emphasize your efforts most. Setting goals, planning your activities, and writing your business plan are examples from this group.
Urgent but not important: We spend a substantial amount of time on works that are pressing but does not have any real impact on achieving specific objectives. You have to chair a meeting that your colleague has requested as he is sick is an example of this type of activities. Often tasks from this group are requests from others or workloads you have willingly taken but deep in your mind you know that these tasks really don’t carry any personal value for you.
Not urgent and not important: These are the real time wasters. Reading junk mails, browsing through the Internet aimlessly, making unnecessary calls to friends are some of the common activities that should be avoided.
Since in the core of effective time management lies the idea of doing things that are important to you, you have to figure out how to select those tasks.
Goal setting
Goal setting is an absolute necessary method for personal planning. The process of goal setting gives you the real picture of your life – what you are now and what you are planning to be in the future. To understand which tasks are really important to you and will help you achieve success you have to set long term goals and then subdivide them to short terms goals. Once you did this, write all the things you have to do to reach these goals, steps you have to take and time span necessary to act upon them.
Use a planner
Move all these necessary activities to a planner. Identify the milestones. These should be your sub-goals. Specify how much time you will need to reach those milestones. Insert the tasks from the list you have created to the planner. Make weekly to do list based on your planner. Choose no more than three to four tasks for each of your goals in a week.
Develop daily to do lists
Your daily to do list should incorporate one or two most important activities from your planner. Your daily to do list should be scheduled loosely. Make sure that you don’t spend too much time on work related tasks. Over working will burn your enthusiasm quickly and bring you back to your previous life style.
In the beginning you might feel overwhelmed with the quantity of tasks you plan to do. To build your self confidence and manage time efficiently choose five not so difficult tasks each day and promise yourself that no matter what you will finish these five tasks. If you continue this for three weeks, it will become a part of your daily habit and build your self trust.
Every time during the course of the day if you have to do a task which is not from your list, ask yourself this question, "Is this really important to my goals?" If the answer is "Yes!" then go for it, if not get back to your list.
Time Management strategies help us to stay motivated and create a balanced lifestyle. The above mentioned methods are effective when followed scrupulously.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nowshade_Kabir
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Goal Setter - Why Is Goal Setting Important? - By Koz Huseyin
For someone new to goal setting, it can be difficult to grasp why setting goals has been a point stressed by many personal development life coaches. However, there is a valid reason. As you read this article, you will come to understand why is goal setting important.
* What Is Goal Setting
Goal setting in its simplest form is having an outcome and working towards achieving it, through planned action. Why goal setting is so important is down to the fact that most people don't set goals. So, if you do consciously set goals, and works to achieve them, then you are someone unique. Most people never consciously goal set.
* About Goal Setting
Goal setting is done by so few people or at least the personal development life coaches would like you to believe! The truth is that all people goal set. That is not the problem.
In life we go to school, grow up, and get a job. Most of the time, we do things because others have influenced us to some degree, and we are doing what others want us to do. Now there is nothing wrong with that, order is better than chaos. But, if life is not how you planned it to be, then you want to create a bit of chaos to turn life into the world you always wanted.
People are like ships without rudders, and goal setting is getting that rudder. Though all people goal set, there is a distinction between what the many do, and what we are talking about here. Setting goals consciously is what is important. A person trying to wake up on time and going to work in a timely fashion is not the type of goal setting we want. Why is that?
* Why Is Goal Setting Important?
You have a life, and you are not a machine. You may love what you do or you may not. Why is goal setting important? It is important because if you find yourself daydreaming often, if you wish for a better life, a better career, etc. Then the only way is by actually making goal setting an important part of your life.
When you goal set, you will find that you will be moving forward in life. There maybe chaos for a while, the world has to change, you have to change. When you do, you will find a world that is more of what you want. No longer are people in slavery, however, we put ourselves as slaves. We become slaves to our job, and a dream we hold inside, that is begging for life, is relegated.
You are free! You are living in a world with infinite possibilities. You can be rich or poor, wealthy and happy. Whatever you like! However, to get anywhere close to that, requires the process of goal setting, and this is why goal setting is important.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Koz_Huseyin
* What Is Goal Setting
Goal setting in its simplest form is having an outcome and working towards achieving it, through planned action. Why goal setting is so important is down to the fact that most people don't set goals. So, if you do consciously set goals, and works to achieve them, then you are someone unique. Most people never consciously goal set.
* About Goal Setting
Goal setting is done by so few people or at least the personal development life coaches would like you to believe! The truth is that all people goal set. That is not the problem.
In life we go to school, grow up, and get a job. Most of the time, we do things because others have influenced us to some degree, and we are doing what others want us to do. Now there is nothing wrong with that, order is better than chaos. But, if life is not how you planned it to be, then you want to create a bit of chaos to turn life into the world you always wanted.
People are like ships without rudders, and goal setting is getting that rudder. Though all people goal set, there is a distinction between what the many do, and what we are talking about here. Setting goals consciously is what is important. A person trying to wake up on time and going to work in a timely fashion is not the type of goal setting we want. Why is that?
* Why Is Goal Setting Important?
You have a life, and you are not a machine. You may love what you do or you may not. Why is goal setting important? It is important because if you find yourself daydreaming often, if you wish for a better life, a better career, etc. Then the only way is by actually making goal setting an important part of your life.
When you goal set, you will find that you will be moving forward in life. There maybe chaos for a while, the world has to change, you have to change. When you do, you will find a world that is more of what you want. No longer are people in slavery, however, we put ourselves as slaves. We become slaves to our job, and a dream we hold inside, that is begging for life, is relegated.
You are free! You are living in a world with infinite possibilities. You can be rich or poor, wealthy and happy. Whatever you like! However, to get anywhere close to that, requires the process of goal setting, and this is why goal setting is important.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Koz_Huseyin
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Worry, Worry, Worry - When Will It End - By Cheryl Leitschuh
Worry is the wonderful emotion that drains our energy. My experience is that worry focuses around two areas: 1) real issues that are so huge it seems we cannot ever solve it, or 2) issues that usually go away, with or without our worry. Whatever your worry category, the solution is the same. We need to understand our worry and identify what we can control and what we can’t.
Addressing worry is like cleaning out your closet. YUCK!! Who wants to spend time cleaning their closet?! Every day we walk by the closet with pangs of guilt as we realize it needs to be cleaned but refusing to spend the time. The guilt feels awful, but we live with the guilt rather than address the issue. Finally, when the moon is just right, we decide to clean the closet. In a short amount of time, the task is complete and how do you feel? Often, the feeling of success and satisfaction far outweigh the longstanding guilt of not addressing the concern.
Here are the action steps to clean out the worry and restore your energy:
STEP ONE: Make a list of five worries that are draining your time and your energy. By moving this worry from your head to paper, you can now work out the solutions rather than spin in the worry.
STEP TWO: Identify what you can do and what just needs time. As I mentioned earlier, some of the worries we have are handled by time. Some of the worry has legitimate substance. Some worries contain both. Identify it, as specifically as possible. The more specific, the easier the next step will become.
STEP THREE: Schedule time to address the “can do” items. Don’t delay!! Imagine the feeling of success and relief that will occur as you move forward with this list. Break the tasks into small steps and GET TO WORK!
STEP FOUR: Celebrate each item as you complete them. What a great use of your energy - Celebration!!!
Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Cheryl_Leitschuh
Addressing worry is like cleaning out your closet. YUCK!! Who wants to spend time cleaning their closet?! Every day we walk by the closet with pangs of guilt as we realize it needs to be cleaned but refusing to spend the time. The guilt feels awful, but we live with the guilt rather than address the issue. Finally, when the moon is just right, we decide to clean the closet. In a short amount of time, the task is complete and how do you feel? Often, the feeling of success and satisfaction far outweigh the longstanding guilt of not addressing the concern.
Here are the action steps to clean out the worry and restore your energy:
STEP ONE: Make a list of five worries that are draining your time and your energy. By moving this worry from your head to paper, you can now work out the solutions rather than spin in the worry.
STEP TWO: Identify what you can do and what just needs time. As I mentioned earlier, some of the worries we have are handled by time. Some of the worry has legitimate substance. Some worries contain both. Identify it, as specifically as possible. The more specific, the easier the next step will become.
STEP THREE: Schedule time to address the “can do” items. Don’t delay!! Imagine the feeling of success and relief that will occur as you move forward with this list. Break the tasks into small steps and GET TO WORK!
STEP FOUR: Celebrate each item as you complete them. What a great use of your energy - Celebration!!!
Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Cheryl_Leitschuh
Friday, October 31, 2008
10 (More) Reasons You're Not Rich - By By Jeffrey Strain
Many people assume they aren't rich because they don't earn enough money. If I only earned a little more, I could save and invest better, they say.
The problem with that theory is they were probably making exactly the same argument before their last several raises. Becoming a millionaire has less to do with how much you make, it's how you treat money in your daily life.
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10. Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Here are 10 more possible reasons you aren't rich:
You care what your car looks like: A car is a means of transportation to get from one place to another, but many people don't view it that way. Instead, they consider it a reflection of themselves and spend money every two years or so to impress others instead of driving the car for its entire useful life and investing the money saved.
You feel entitlement: If you believe you deserve to live a certain lifestyle, have certain things and spend a certain amount before you have earned to live that way, you will have to borrow money. That large chunk of debt will keep you from building wealth.
You lack diversification: There is a reason one of the oldest pieces of financial advice is to not keep all your eggs in a single basket. Having a diversified investment portfolio makes it much less likely that wealth will suddenly disappear.
You started too late: The magic of compound interest works best over long periods of time. If you find you're always saying there will be time to save and invest in a couple more years, you'll wake up one day to find retirement is just around the corner and there is still nothing in your retirement account.
You don't do what you enjoy: While your job doesn't necessarily need to be your dream job, you need to enjoy it. If you choose a job you don't like just for the money, you'll likely spend all that extra cash trying to relieve the stress of doing work you hate.
You don't like to learn: You may have assumed that once you graduated from college, there was no need to study or learn. That attitude might be enough to get you your first job or keep you employed, but it will never make you rich. A willingness to learn to improve your career and finances are essential if you want to eventually become wealthy.
You buy things you don't use: Take a look around your house, in the closets, basement, attic and garage and see if there are a lot of things you haven't used in the past year. If there are, chances are that all those things you purchased were wasted money that could have been used to increase your net worth.
You don't understand value: You buy things for any number of reasons besides the value that the purchase brings to you. This is not limited to those who feel the need to buy the most expensive items, but can also apply to those who always purchase the cheapest goods. Rarely are either the best value, and it's only when you learn to purchase good value that you have money left over to invest for your future.
Your house is too big: When you buy a house that is bigger than you can afford or need, you end up spending extra money on longer debt payments, increased taxes, higher upkeep and more things to fill it. Some people will try to argue that the increased value of the house makes it a good investment, but the truth is that unless you are willing to downgrade your living standards, which most people are not, it will never be a liquid asset or money that you can ever use and enjoy.
You fail to take advantage of opportunities: There has probably been more than one occasion where you heard about someone who has made it big and thought to yourself, "I could have thought of that." There are plenty of opportunities if you have the will and determination to keep your eyes open.
Source: http://wuryanano.wordpress.com/
The problem with that theory is they were probably making exactly the same argument before their last several raises. Becoming a millionaire has less to do with how much you make, it's how you treat money in your daily life.
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10. Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Here are 10 more possible reasons you aren't rich:
You care what your car looks like: A car is a means of transportation to get from one place to another, but many people don't view it that way. Instead, they consider it a reflection of themselves and spend money every two years or so to impress others instead of driving the car for its entire useful life and investing the money saved.
You feel entitlement: If you believe you deserve to live a certain lifestyle, have certain things and spend a certain amount before you have earned to live that way, you will have to borrow money. That large chunk of debt will keep you from building wealth.
You lack diversification: There is a reason one of the oldest pieces of financial advice is to not keep all your eggs in a single basket. Having a diversified investment portfolio makes it much less likely that wealth will suddenly disappear.
You started too late: The magic of compound interest works best over long periods of time. If you find you're always saying there will be time to save and invest in a couple more years, you'll wake up one day to find retirement is just around the corner and there is still nothing in your retirement account.
You don't do what you enjoy: While your job doesn't necessarily need to be your dream job, you need to enjoy it. If you choose a job you don't like just for the money, you'll likely spend all that extra cash trying to relieve the stress of doing work you hate.
You don't like to learn: You may have assumed that once you graduated from college, there was no need to study or learn. That attitude might be enough to get you your first job or keep you employed, but it will never make you rich. A willingness to learn to improve your career and finances are essential if you want to eventually become wealthy.
You buy things you don't use: Take a look around your house, in the closets, basement, attic and garage and see if there are a lot of things you haven't used in the past year. If there are, chances are that all those things you purchased were wasted money that could have been used to increase your net worth.
You don't understand value: You buy things for any number of reasons besides the value that the purchase brings to you. This is not limited to those who feel the need to buy the most expensive items, but can also apply to those who always purchase the cheapest goods. Rarely are either the best value, and it's only when you learn to purchase good value that you have money left over to invest for your future.
Your house is too big: When you buy a house that is bigger than you can afford or need, you end up spending extra money on longer debt payments, increased taxes, higher upkeep and more things to fill it. Some people will try to argue that the increased value of the house makes it a good investment, but the truth is that unless you are willing to downgrade your living standards, which most people are not, it will never be a liquid asset or money that you can ever use and enjoy.
You fail to take advantage of opportunities: There has probably been more than one occasion where you heard about someone who has made it big and thought to yourself, "I could have thought of that." There are plenty of opportunities if you have the will and determination to keep your eyes open.
Source: http://wuryanano.wordpress.com/
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Definition Of Forgiveness - By Karen Grisham
1. Anger: a justifiable response
It may seem ordinary for people to be angry and want revenge when they have been assaulted, a family member murdered, or some other violence has shattered their lives.
I believe that anger is often justified, reasonable and expected in these and other, less devastating situations.
2. Thoughts on forgiveness: a second option.
A definition of forgiveness:
Many sources cite quotes on forgiveness, most with unknown origins. Here are some of them:
* "Forgiveness is opening the prison gates, and discovering that I am free at last."
* "Forgiveness is giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me."
* "Forgiveness is acknowledging that the offender did the best he could with his resources at the time."
* "Forgiveness is letting go of the emotional connection to an event."
What forgiveness is NOT:
* Forgiveness is not excusing or condoning the offending behavior.
* Forgiveness is not removal of the natural and logical consequences for the behavior.
* Forgiveness does not mean the offender has the right to resume pre-offense rights and privileges in your relationship.
* Forgiveness does not mean you need to invite the offender back into your life.
Outcomes: lessons on forgiveness
* Freedom to move on.
* Freedom to trust others.
* Freedom from the influence of bitterness, anger and judgment.
* Freedom to love, give, and enjoy life.
* Freedom to reconcile a damaged relationship.
How will you choose?
* Forgiveness is the gift that keeps on giving, to you and to the offender.
* Forgiveness assures clearance of any residual judgment or criticism you may have held.
* Forgiveness need not be accepted by another to be powerful
* Whether or not a relationship is reconciled will depend on the circumstances of the situation.
* Forgiveness begins healing, and models healing behavior
* Inviting the other person back into your life is an option
* Safety is a consideration.
* Many factors will determine whether this approach is reasonable. Often it depends on the accountability and remorse expressed by the offender
* Nobody loses with forgiveness, the offender is free to choose accountability over guilt.
Forgiveness implemented is the key to everyday freedom.
It costs nothing and the rewards are limitless. The thoughts on forgiveness presented here are offered to help you simplify your life.
Anger, resentment and bitterness drain us of emotional energy. Forgiveness is energizing and simplifies life. It provides you with the means to go forward in the presence of adversity, and gain the best possible quality of life. I encourage you to try it!
It may seem ordinary for people to be angry and want revenge when they have been assaulted, a family member murdered, or some other violence has shattered their lives.
I believe that anger is often justified, reasonable and expected in these and other, less devastating situations.
2. Thoughts on forgiveness: a second option.
A definition of forgiveness:
Many sources cite quotes on forgiveness, most with unknown origins. Here are some of them:
* "Forgiveness is opening the prison gates, and discovering that I am free at last."
* "Forgiveness is giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me."
* "Forgiveness is acknowledging that the offender did the best he could with his resources at the time."
* "Forgiveness is letting go of the emotional connection to an event."
What forgiveness is NOT:
* Forgiveness is not excusing or condoning the offending behavior.
* Forgiveness is not removal of the natural and logical consequences for the behavior.
* Forgiveness does not mean the offender has the right to resume pre-offense rights and privileges in your relationship.
* Forgiveness does not mean you need to invite the offender back into your life.
Outcomes: lessons on forgiveness
* Freedom to move on.
* Freedom to trust others.
* Freedom from the influence of bitterness, anger and judgment.
* Freedom to love, give, and enjoy life.
* Freedom to reconcile a damaged relationship.
How will you choose?
* Forgiveness is the gift that keeps on giving, to you and to the offender.
* Forgiveness assures clearance of any residual judgment or criticism you may have held.
* Forgiveness need not be accepted by another to be powerful
* Whether or not a relationship is reconciled will depend on the circumstances of the situation.
* Forgiveness begins healing, and models healing behavior
* Inviting the other person back into your life is an option
* Safety is a consideration.
* Many factors will determine whether this approach is reasonable. Often it depends on the accountability and remorse expressed by the offender
* Nobody loses with forgiveness, the offender is free to choose accountability over guilt.
Forgiveness implemented is the key to everyday freedom.
It costs nothing and the rewards are limitless. The thoughts on forgiveness presented here are offered to help you simplify your life.
Anger, resentment and bitterness drain us of emotional energy. Forgiveness is energizing and simplifies life. It provides you with the means to go forward in the presence of adversity, and gain the best possible quality of life. I encourage you to try it!
Sunday, August 31, 2008
How to Develop An Attitude of Gratitude
Do you wish to be much happier, have more abundance and achieve financial security? The answer is yes. We all wish we could achieve all these things. If that so, than you must start develop an attitude of gratitude.
Gratitude is possibly the most powerful way to change our life. The power of gratitude is this; the more things we are grateful for, the more things we will experience to be grateful for. This is the law of attraction at work, and is superbly expressed in gratitude. Here are some ideas to develop an attitude of gratitude:
1. Be appreciative for the seemingly ordinary things in life.
Be appreciative to things like a cup of hot coffee on a cold day, sunshine peeping through the trees, an idle chit chat with a friend, and so much more! You have to 'open your eyes' to what is around you. You have to focus on what's good in your life, not what's bad. There is a saying - "The man complained he had no shoes until he met the man that had no feet." Look for in every situation that aspect of the situation that you can be grateful about.
There will always be something you lack for the simple reason that you cannot have two opposing things at once. Expressing gratitude brings about enjoyment and appreciation for what you have now. . . in this moment. There are so many things that we take for granted. Many times we don’t realize how much we actually take for granted until tragedy strikes.
Be grateful of whatever things that you have and the person that is around you. You can be grateful to the basic things that you have around your life like food, water, electricity etc. When you start to think of that, you will be more appreciative of the things around you and you will have a feeling of gratitude.
Who gets the gratitude is not as important as your own feeling of gratitude. Try to look for things that you can be grateful for so that you can always feel the joy of gratitude. It can even be someone that you are close to or person that has really influence you. This will in turn slowly changes and trains your mind to have a positive attitude as you will have. When you have the joy of gratitude, the negative thinking will instantly be gone.
2. Look for the good in every situation
Now the first thing that you can do is to be grateful to the terrible things that has happen to you before. Why should you do so? The first reason will be when we meet terrible things with the feeling of gratitude; we will feel better as the feeling of gratitude always feels good. The second reason is that we will always face problems in life. When you know that there must be some reason why you are in these problems, you will be more open to it. Sometimes, it is just a change in our perception that will allow us to see what there is to be grateful about in a situation. When you are grateful for being able to find the reason, you will start to have a positive attitude towards problem.
Even in times when it seems that nothing could be worse, there is always a reason to be grateful. And when you feel a sense of gratitude, you feel a sense of happiness and content.
3. Think about the whole process.
When you receive anything, like a child’s drawing or an expensive gift, focus on how much time, effort, and thought went into the gift. Taking the time to realize how much work, caring, and thought a person has given you, is a wonderful way to deepen your appreciation of both the giver and the gift
4. Remember to say thank you.
Give praise and tell people what you appreciate about them - you'll make their day. Show your gratitude by giving a card or small gift.
Gratitude is more than simply saying ‘thank you’, it is also about not complaining about your current situation. When we complain about things going wrong all the time, this creates a negative vibration and creates more of these situations for us. So how do we turn things around? We start by complaining less, we accept things for how they are in this moment, knowing that good times are on their way.
5. Reach beyond yourself and do something good to other people.
Spend time helping people who are worse off than you. It makes our problems seems “smaller” when we help someone who experiencing a greater problem than us. Sometimes, it even gave us an insight that comes with a solution to our problems.
6. Lower your expectation
Sometimes we get so busy and caught up in daily life that we forget to be grateful. We expect everyone to do their share without being asked. This attitude, over the long haul, will develop very resentful and uncooperative environment. When we quit expecting the world (or people) to give us things, we can become more focused on enjoying the gifts that do come our way.
7. Concentrate on solutions rather than problems
What you focus on expands. When you focus on what you have, you will end up having more. If you focus on what you lack, you will never have enough. So, it makes sense that expressing gratitude will expand that for which you are grateful.
Gratitude does not mean blindly accepting your circumstances or limiting your chances for a better tomorrow. It does, however, nurture positive feelings and contribute to bringing about good energy vibrations. This in turn will pull similar to you. Remember, energy attracts like energy
You are the director of your energy and of your focus. If you let it be attracted to things, events, and people that are upsetting to you, then you will attract more of the same into your life. It is when you take charge and focus on those things to be grateful for that you change the flow of your energy to one that will bring into your life more things to be in gratitude about.
Gratitude is the highest frequency of energy for it is a combination of thankfulness, appreciation, and love. When you enter into and maintain this vibration of gratitude, you will feel more joyful and everything will appear clearer and more vibrant.
Decide where to give your attention. Choose to be in gratitude and look for those things that you can be grateful about no matter how small it may seem. That will be your starting point for moving into the vibration of gratitude
8. Make a gratitude journal
Sarah Ban Breathnach in her best-selling book, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, advocates the use of a gratitude journal. She cites this as “a tool that could change the quality of your life beyond belief.” The premise of the gratitude journal is to record five things that you are grateful for each day. Some days you might have to be creative to find five. Other days you might have ten or twenty! Value the little things. Value the person who sincerely smiled and asked how you were at the grocery store checkout. Value the soft touch of a child’s hand on your shoulder. Value a new song that you hear on the radio.
Create your own gratitude journal and list five things that you are grateful for each evening. Notice how this deepens your appreciation for life and helps to maintain a positive outlook. You may also want to start a “Family Gratitude Journal” where each night you think of five things that you are grateful for as a family.
Start your day with gratitude and end your day with gratitude too. You will then find your life change in wonderful and amazing ways.
To Your Happiness And Success,
Kingson Suryaatmaja
Gratitude is possibly the most powerful way to change our life. The power of gratitude is this; the more things we are grateful for, the more things we will experience to be grateful for. This is the law of attraction at work, and is superbly expressed in gratitude. Here are some ideas to develop an attitude of gratitude:
1. Be appreciative for the seemingly ordinary things in life.
Be appreciative to things like a cup of hot coffee on a cold day, sunshine peeping through the trees, an idle chit chat with a friend, and so much more! You have to 'open your eyes' to what is around you. You have to focus on what's good in your life, not what's bad. There is a saying - "The man complained he had no shoes until he met the man that had no feet." Look for in every situation that aspect of the situation that you can be grateful about.There will always be something you lack for the simple reason that you cannot have two opposing things at once. Expressing gratitude brings about enjoyment and appreciation for what you have now. . . in this moment. There are so many things that we take for granted. Many times we don’t realize how much we actually take for granted until tragedy strikes.
Be grateful of whatever things that you have and the person that is around you. You can be grateful to the basic things that you have around your life like food, water, electricity etc. When you start to think of that, you will be more appreciative of the things around you and you will have a feeling of gratitude.
Who gets the gratitude is not as important as your own feeling of gratitude. Try to look for things that you can be grateful for so that you can always feel the joy of gratitude. It can even be someone that you are close to or person that has really influence you. This will in turn slowly changes and trains your mind to have a positive attitude as you will have. When you have the joy of gratitude, the negative thinking will instantly be gone.
2. Look for the good in every situation
Now the first thing that you can do is to be grateful to the terrible things that has happen to you before. Why should you do so? The first reason will be when we meet terrible things with the feeling of gratitude; we will feel better as the feeling of gratitude always feels good. The second reason is that we will always face problems in life. When you know that there must be some reason why you are in these problems, you will be more open to it. Sometimes, it is just a change in our perception that will allow us to see what there is to be grateful about in a situation. When you are grateful for being able to find the reason, you will start to have a positive attitude towards problem.
Even in times when it seems that nothing could be worse, there is always a reason to be grateful. And when you feel a sense of gratitude, you feel a sense of happiness and content.
3. Think about the whole process.
When you receive anything, like a child’s drawing or an expensive gift, focus on how much time, effort, and thought went into the gift. Taking the time to realize how much work, caring, and thought a person has given you, is a wonderful way to deepen your appreciation of both the giver and the gift4. Remember to say thank you.
Give praise and tell people what you appreciate about them - you'll make their day. Show your gratitude by giving a card or small gift.
Gratitude is more than simply saying ‘thank you’, it is also about not complaining about your current situation. When we complain about things going wrong all the time, this creates a negative vibration and creates more of these situations for us. So how do we turn things around? We start by complaining less, we accept things for how they are in this moment, knowing that good times are on their way.
5. Reach beyond yourself and do something good to other people.
Spend time helping people who are worse off than you. It makes our problems seems “smaller” when we help someone who experiencing a greater problem than us. Sometimes, it even gave us an insight that comes with a solution to our problems.
6. Lower your expectation
Sometimes we get so busy and caught up in daily life that we forget to be grateful. We expect everyone to do their share without being asked. This attitude, over the long haul, will develop very resentful and uncooperative environment. When we quit expecting the world (or people) to give us things, we can become more focused on enjoying the gifts that do come our way.
7. Concentrate on solutions rather than problems
What you focus on expands. When you focus on what you have, you will end up having more. If you focus on what you lack, you will never have enough. So, it makes sense that expressing gratitude will expand that for which you are grateful.
Gratitude does not mean blindly accepting your circumstances or limiting your chances for a better tomorrow. It does, however, nurture positive feelings and contribute to bringing about good energy vibrations. This in turn will pull similar to you. Remember, energy attracts like energyYou are the director of your energy and of your focus. If you let it be attracted to things, events, and people that are upsetting to you, then you will attract more of the same into your life. It is when you take charge and focus on those things to be grateful for that you change the flow of your energy to one that will bring into your life more things to be in gratitude about.
Gratitude is the highest frequency of energy for it is a combination of thankfulness, appreciation, and love. When you enter into and maintain this vibration of gratitude, you will feel more joyful and everything will appear clearer and more vibrant.
Decide where to give your attention. Choose to be in gratitude and look for those things that you can be grateful about no matter how small it may seem. That will be your starting point for moving into the vibration of gratitude
8. Make a gratitude journal
Sarah Ban Breathnach in her best-selling book, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, advocates the use of a gratitude journal. She cites this as “a tool that could change the quality of your life beyond belief.” The premise of the gratitude journal is to record five things that you are grateful for each day. Some days you might have to be creative to find five. Other days you might have ten or twenty! Value the little things. Value the person who sincerely smiled and asked how you were at the grocery store checkout. Value the soft touch of a child’s hand on your shoulder. Value a new song that you hear on the radio.
Create your own gratitude journal and list five things that you are grateful for each evening. Notice how this deepens your appreciation for life and helps to maintain a positive outlook. You may also want to start a “Family Gratitude Journal” where each night you think of five things that you are grateful for as a family.
Start your day with gratitude and end your day with gratitude too. You will then find your life change in wonderful and amazing ways.
To Your Happiness And Success,
Kingson Suryaatmaja
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Commitment: Your Key To Success
In order to reach your goal, the first thing you need to have is Commitment. Without it, you progress from where you are today. Without commitment, there will be no success.
A true commitment is a heart felt promise to yourself, from which you will NOT give up, no matter what the circumstances may be! Once you start, there is no stopping until you get there.
Yes, there maybe some turns in the road, but keeping yourself committed to your goals will get you there. Someone who is not committed to their own success will see challenges as roadblocks, stopping them from reaching new levels in their lives. But people with commitment will see things differently.
They do not accept failure as an option. They see challenges as signs that their efforts need to be modified or redirected to get them to their goal.
They willingly look for new and better ways to do something and then do it. They focus on eliminating the problem and confronting head on what is not working. There are no roadblocks in the mind of a committed person; they are merely suggestions for detours that will still take them where they ultimately want to go.
Each of us have the same opportunity to make such a commitment to success, and it requires some work and determination on our part. The reward for doing so is attaining the success that you've always dreamed of.
Many people have good intentions and dreams, but only a few are willing to commit to what is necessary to achieve them. Do a review on your commitment level, ask yourself these questions and be honest with the answers.
• How badly do I want to achieve my dreams?
• What will achieving my dreams mean to me?
• What price am I willing to pay to make this happen?
• Do I believe I can?
The ability to achieve your goals and dreams will be determined by the level to which YOU are willing to commit. NOTHING is as important as this fact!
Think of athletes or performers in any field. The endless hours of practice and learning, the lack of a social life, the defeats, the huge amount of sacrifices and challenges these people have to meet so they can fulfill their dreams. Only YOU can decide whether the rewards you strive for are worth the effort.
A serious commitment to a goal does not mean you have to take all the joy and fun out of life. Laughter and humor are an integral part of the human make up. Integrate fun into your daily goals.
Take each day as it comes and take your commitments in daily bite-sized pieces. You can do without mental indigestion! A house is built one brick at a time. An artist paints one stroke at a time! As Confucius said, “It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop”
A true commitment is a heart felt promise to yourself, from which you will NOT give up, no matter what the circumstances may be! Once you start, there is no stopping until you get there.
Yes, there maybe some turns in the road, but keeping yourself committed to your goals will get you there. Someone who is not committed to their own success will see challenges as roadblocks, stopping them from reaching new levels in their lives. But people with commitment will see things differently.
They do not accept failure as an option. They see challenges as signs that their efforts need to be modified or redirected to get them to their goal.
They willingly look for new and better ways to do something and then do it. They focus on eliminating the problem and confronting head on what is not working. There are no roadblocks in the mind of a committed person; they are merely suggestions for detours that will still take them where they ultimately want to go.
Each of us have the same opportunity to make such a commitment to success, and it requires some work and determination on our part. The reward for doing so is attaining the success that you've always dreamed of.
Many people have good intentions and dreams, but only a few are willing to commit to what is necessary to achieve them. Do a review on your commitment level, ask yourself these questions and be honest with the answers.
• How badly do I want to achieve my dreams?
• What will achieving my dreams mean to me?
• What price am I willing to pay to make this happen?
• Do I believe I can?
The ability to achieve your goals and dreams will be determined by the level to which YOU are willing to commit. NOTHING is as important as this fact!
Think of athletes or performers in any field. The endless hours of practice and learning, the lack of a social life, the defeats, the huge amount of sacrifices and challenges these people have to meet so they can fulfill their dreams. Only YOU can decide whether the rewards you strive for are worth the effort.
A serious commitment to a goal does not mean you have to take all the joy and fun out of life. Laughter and humor are an integral part of the human make up. Integrate fun into your daily goals.
Take each day as it comes and take your commitments in daily bite-sized pieces. You can do without mental indigestion! A house is built one brick at a time. An artist paints one stroke at a time! As Confucius said, “It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop”
Why Should We Be Greatful?
How many times a day do you find yourself wanting something you don't have? Or having something that you don’t want? If you're like most people, it's more often than you think.
There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting something which you don't have, or having something which you don’t want. It's human nature. You may want more money, or a bigger home, maybe? How about a leaner more muscular body? Or better health?
Your well being is at the very core of your existence. Being happy with who you are and what you have right now while at the same time wanting more is essential to your well being. However, you must remove all doubt, unworthiness and impatience from your thoughts. Learn to accept and appreciate that which you have now by living with an attitude of gratitude.
When life is good, gratitude is easy. It becomes more challenging to be grateful when we experience hard times. Financial hardship, long-term illness, the death of a loved one and marital strife can all be trying and difficult. It is hard to find anything to be grateful for.
But we have a choice in how we view our circumstances. We can turn our hearts to God and trust that he has a plan for us. We can be thankful for the lessons we learn and the opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Look at all the people in this world who share the gifts they received during especially difficult times of their life. It is the painful times of our life that will make us stronger, wiser, and more loving.
We are who we are, loaded with possibilities, because of everything that has happened to us – not just the events that look positive on the surface. Losing your job could free you up for a better one. The despair of crushing debt forced us to learn how to handle wealth, which must happen before we are entrusted with it.
Life works in mysterious ways. Time and time again there have been stories of people who are in a dire straits yet they are found helping others who are experiencing greater turmoil. This is because once you have helped someone in greater need than yourself, you always feel better. You feel better because you have helped another human being, and this forces you to change your mindset from focusing on your problems to focusing on their solutions.
All of these things help make us who we are, and teach us what we needed to know to move forward. We didn’t learn to multiply before we learnt to add. We don’t reach the next step untill we’ve understood the last one. We must be grateful that we’ve had the chance to gain that understanding.
The Institute of Heartmath has actually monitored how the heart reacts to both frustration and gratitude. During frustration the heart rhythm is erratic and jumpy. During gratitude the heart rhythm is even and regular. What does that tell you? We need to focus on what is good in our lives.
Some of the findings from the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness included:
• Those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
• Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.
• A daily gratitude practice with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy.
• In a 21-day gratitude process involving adults with neuromuscular disease, results included greater amounts of high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.
• Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. They do not deny or ignore the negative aspects of life. They tend to place less importance on material goods and are more likely to be generous.
Everything on our earthly plane is temporary. Acknowledge this, and be grateful for your gift of life and all the beauty and abundance within it now. Decide to see things to be grateful about and truly feel the gratefulness within you. You will then find your life change in wonderful and amazing ways.
There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting something which you don't have, or having something which you don’t want. It's human nature. You may want more money, or a bigger home, maybe? How about a leaner more muscular body? Or better health?
Your well being is at the very core of your existence. Being happy with who you are and what you have right now while at the same time wanting more is essential to your well being. However, you must remove all doubt, unworthiness and impatience from your thoughts. Learn to accept and appreciate that which you have now by living with an attitude of gratitude.
When life is good, gratitude is easy. It becomes more challenging to be grateful when we experience hard times. Financial hardship, long-term illness, the death of a loved one and marital strife can all be trying and difficult. It is hard to find anything to be grateful for.
But we have a choice in how we view our circumstances. We can turn our hearts to God and trust that he has a plan for us. We can be thankful for the lessons we learn and the opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Look at all the people in this world who share the gifts they received during especially difficult times of their life. It is the painful times of our life that will make us stronger, wiser, and more loving.
We are who we are, loaded with possibilities, because of everything that has happened to us – not just the events that look positive on the surface. Losing your job could free you up for a better one. The despair of crushing debt forced us to learn how to handle wealth, which must happen before we are entrusted with it.
Life works in mysterious ways. Time and time again there have been stories of people who are in a dire straits yet they are found helping others who are experiencing greater turmoil. This is because once you have helped someone in greater need than yourself, you always feel better. You feel better because you have helped another human being, and this forces you to change your mindset from focusing on your problems to focusing on their solutions.
All of these things help make us who we are, and teach us what we needed to know to move forward. We didn’t learn to multiply before we learnt to add. We don’t reach the next step untill we’ve understood the last one. We must be grateful that we’ve had the chance to gain that understanding.
The Institute of Heartmath has actually monitored how the heart reacts to both frustration and gratitude. During frustration the heart rhythm is erratic and jumpy. During gratitude the heart rhythm is even and regular. What does that tell you? We need to focus on what is good in our lives.
Some of the findings from the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness included:
• Those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
• Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.
• A daily gratitude practice with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy.
• In a 21-day gratitude process involving adults with neuromuscular disease, results included greater amounts of high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.
• Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. They do not deny or ignore the negative aspects of life. They tend to place less importance on material goods and are more likely to be generous.
Everything on our earthly plane is temporary. Acknowledge this, and be grateful for your gift of life and all the beauty and abundance within it now. Decide to see things to be grateful about and truly feel the gratefulness within you. You will then find your life change in wonderful and amazing ways.
Sunday, July 6, 2008
The Meaning Behind Circumstances
What does an old sock means to us? It might mean nothing. But imagine, if the sock was a gift from someone we loved, the one and only thing left to remind us of them, doesn’t that means a lot more to us now? What if someone in our family threw it away (it is just an old sock anyway)? Surely it might make us feel up sad. Why?
It was not the sock that mattered. It was the meaning that was represented by the sock. A sock is only a sock anyway, it has little meaning other than its main function. But the meaning we gave it has a positive or negative effect on us.
In our daily lives, we face so many circumstances. Positive circumstances can make us feel happy, satisfied, confident, or other positive feelings. Negative circumstances can make us unhappy, dissatisfied, unconfident, or other negative feelings. But actually, circumstances are not negative or positive, circumstances are neutral. It is our thinking, our mental state, our perspective, that makes a circumstance positive or negative.
Bob Proctor does some of the best teaching on this subject, using a universal law he refers to as the Law of Polarity.
"Everything in the universe has its opposite. There would be no inside to a room without an outside. You have a right and left side to your body, a front and a back. Every up has a down and every down has and up. The Law of Polarity not only states that everything has an opposite -- it is equal and opposite. If it was three feet from the floor up to the table, it would be three feet from the table down to the floor. If it is 150 miles from Manchester to London, by law it must be 150 miles from London to Manchester; it could not be any other way."
"If something you considered bad happens in your life, there has to be something good about it. If it was only a little bad, when you mentally work your way around to the other side, you will find it will only be a little good."
Having a flat tire on your way to your office seems to be a negative circumstance to you, but it’s a very positive circumstance for your local tire dealer. Looking even further it’s possible that while changing the tire the dealer discovers a much more serious problem that would have cost you a large sum of money if discovered later.
Every circumstance can be viewed two ways. It’s the way we view a circumstance that determines its impact on our thinking and mental state. And we know that it determines the quality of life that we live.
No matter how bad the circumstance appears to be, taking another look, from another perspective, reveals to us the good. Or, as Napoleon Hill author of the classic "Think and Grow Rich", wrote, "Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit."
I want to quote James Allen’s sayings in his book By Ways of Blessedness, "Your difficulty is not contained, primarily, in the situation which gave rise to it, but in the mental state with which you regard that situation and which you bring to bear upon it."
So, keep our minds clear. Be cautious of the meaning we give to any circumstance in our lives. Whatever it might be, make sure that it is something that makes us bigger, stronger, better, or wiser in our future.
It was not the sock that mattered. It was the meaning that was represented by the sock. A sock is only a sock anyway, it has little meaning other than its main function. But the meaning we gave it has a positive or negative effect on us.
In our daily lives, we face so many circumstances. Positive circumstances can make us feel happy, satisfied, confident, or other positive feelings. Negative circumstances can make us unhappy, dissatisfied, unconfident, or other negative feelings. But actually, circumstances are not negative or positive, circumstances are neutral. It is our thinking, our mental state, our perspective, that makes a circumstance positive or negative.
Bob Proctor does some of the best teaching on this subject, using a universal law he refers to as the Law of Polarity.
"Everything in the universe has its opposite. There would be no inside to a room without an outside. You have a right and left side to your body, a front and a back. Every up has a down and every down has and up. The Law of Polarity not only states that everything has an opposite -- it is equal and opposite. If it was three feet from the floor up to the table, it would be three feet from the table down to the floor. If it is 150 miles from Manchester to London, by law it must be 150 miles from London to Manchester; it could not be any other way."
"If something you considered bad happens in your life, there has to be something good about it. If it was only a little bad, when you mentally work your way around to the other side, you will find it will only be a little good."
Having a flat tire on your way to your office seems to be a negative circumstance to you, but it’s a very positive circumstance for your local tire dealer. Looking even further it’s possible that while changing the tire the dealer discovers a much more serious problem that would have cost you a large sum of money if discovered later.
Every circumstance can be viewed two ways. It’s the way we view a circumstance that determines its impact on our thinking and mental state. And we know that it determines the quality of life that we live.
No matter how bad the circumstance appears to be, taking another look, from another perspective, reveals to us the good. Or, as Napoleon Hill author of the classic "Think and Grow Rich", wrote, "Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit."
I want to quote James Allen’s sayings in his book By Ways of Blessedness, "Your difficulty is not contained, primarily, in the situation which gave rise to it, but in the mental state with which you regard that situation and which you bring to bear upon it."
So, keep our minds clear. Be cautious of the meaning we give to any circumstance in our lives. Whatever it might be, make sure that it is something that makes us bigger, stronger, better, or wiser in our future.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Perseverance And Success
On September 20, 2007 , Forbes Magazine released the latest list of the richest people in the world. At the very top of the list was unchanged, Bill Gates (Microsoft Corp.) who led the list for the 14th straight years, this time with a net worth estimated at $59 billion.
In the top 100 of the list, there were 5 names who are under 40 years of age, i.e: Sergey Brin (33), Larry Page (34), Oleg Deripaska (39), Pierre Omidyar (39), and Kumar Birla (39). Sergey Brin and Larry Page are the founders of Google.com. Oleg Deripaska is the chairman of Russian aluminium industry company. Pierre Omidyar is the founder of Ebay auction site. And Kumar Birla is the chairman of several blue chip companies inIndia
Their net worth is estimated between $8 billion up to $16,6 billion. And as I notice, Bill Gates was in his 37 when he first enlisted in the first rank at Forbes.
I believe that there is nothing in this world that is called “instant success”. We often look at successful people in their present situation. But do we know the process they have to get through to get to the present situation? Everything is a process, and all we have to do is to do our best in everything we do. And trying to do it better each time we do it. In order to perform better, we need to practice. As Colin Powell said, “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” The genius Thomas Alva Edison said, “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”
Many people complain about their current situation, and want to become somebody else. They wish to have instant success, but forget their current duties and responsibilities. They procrastinate and then make excuses if they fail to achieve their sales target. “A lot of people quit looking for work as soon as they find a job,” said Zig Ziglar.
In the top 100 of the list, there were 5 names who are under 40 years of age, i.e: Sergey Brin (33), Larry Page (34), Oleg Deripaska (39), Pierre Omidyar (39), and Kumar Birla (39). Sergey Brin and Larry Page are the founders of Google.com. Oleg Deripaska is the chairman of Russian aluminium industry company. Pierre Omidyar is the founder of Ebay auction site. And Kumar Birla is the chairman of several blue chip companies in
Their net worth is estimated between $8 billion up to $16,6 billion. And as I notice, Bill Gates was in his 37 when he first enlisted in the first rank at Forbes.
We are living in a time where everything can be achieved at a speed that was unimaginable 20 years ago. As stated in www.forbes.com, “A billion dollars just doesn't go as far as it used to. For the first time, it takes more than $1 billion earn a spot on Forbes magazine's list of the 400 richest Americans. The minimum net worth for inclusion in this year's rankings was $1.3 billion, up $300 million from last year.”
Nowdays, there are many seminars, training courses, and internet coaching programmes which claim that they can show you how to get rich in a very short time and in a very easy way. Many people join multi-level marketing programmes so that they can earn easy money in a very short time.
I believe that there is nothing in this world that is called “instant success”. We often look at successful people in their present situation. But do we know the process they have to get through to get to the present situation? Everything is a process, and all we have to do is to do our best in everything we do. And trying to do it better each time we do it. In order to perform better, we need to practice. As Colin Powell said, “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” The genius Thomas Alva Edison said, “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”
Many people complain about their current situation, and want to become somebody else. They wish to have instant success, but forget their current duties and responsibilities. They procrastinate and then make excuses if they fail to achieve their sales target. “A lot of people quit looking for work as soon as they find a job,” said Zig Ziglar.
There is a great quote from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., “If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well.”
So, let’s get back to our job. Do our best and keep trying to do it better each time we do it. Try to learn something new each time every day. Reach our peak performance everyday in everything we do. Make it a masterpiece in our life, which we proud of and not regret.
This is the word "perseverance" mean to me. I believe that, “He who perseveres to be, will be”
Saturday, September 22, 2007
Billionaire Shares His Success Secrets
Bill Bartmann is well qualified to talk about what it takes to be successful. He is a billionaire, about the 25th richest man in the world and has earned the accolade of "Entrepreneur of the Year". However, life for Bill Bartmann started out very differently.
Bartmann was one of eight children. His parents were uneducated and so could not command well-paying jobs. He describes having to move frequently and even being turned out of dwellings because they were deemed not fit for human habitation.
He has been homeless and was once part of a travelling carnival. He's a former high school dropout. He was a teenage alcoholic and a member of a teenage gang called known as the Manor Boys. He was also the smallest member weighing in at just 98lbs. This didn't stop him from picking fights with the 'big' boys. In some ways it's a trait that has stuck with him - not so much picking fights - but there's audaciousness to many of his business ventures that leave many wide-eyed with wonder.
He truly understands the concept of risk and reward. A big risk can result in a huge pay-off, but if it backfires it can leave a large dent in your pocket and bank balance. Bill Bartmann has experienced both extremes. He has been a pauper, a millionaire, bankrupt and a billionaire.
It just shows that it's not your circumstances that make an individual wealthy. It's your mindset. He could lose everything today and tomorrow he would simply start to rebuild his fortune.
In a recent interview for Virtual Seminar Week, Alex Mandosian asked Bill Bartmann what was in his view the key to success. Bartmann replied that he could sum up the key to success to just one thing, something which he had identified at a young age. I held my breath. This is what he said,
"All the successful people I knew in life had high self-esteem and all the losers had low self-esteem."
Why was I expecting this billionaire to say something different, more profound maybe? We often complicate things unnecessarily. The truth is often very simple and staring us in the face as is beautifully and humorously illustrated in Russell Conwell's Acres of Diamonds.
Also to quote Harv Ecker,
"You can have the greatest business strategies in the world but if you don't have the mindset to go along with them you won't use them."
Our self-image drives everything that we do and our self-image is inexorably linked to our self-esteem and self-confidence. Improve your self-esteem and improvements in your life will naturally follow. Having a high self-esteem is indeed the key to success.
When Bartmann was growing up his self-esteem was low. He gives credit to his childhood sweetheart, Kathy, for opening his eyes to this fact. It is as Barbara D'Angelis says,
"Until you're aware of what you're doing you have no choice but to continue doing it."
However, at age 17, Bartmann was not aware that he continually put himself down until one night he was driving with Kathy, just 14 at the time, at his side when she suddenly slapped the dashboard and said,
"Pull over! Stop the car! Let me out!"
Shocked, he obliged. She told him that she never wanted to see him again. She told him that she loved him but that he was always putting himself down. She had had enough.
He was stunned. He had no idea. He loved this young girl and he did not want to lose her. He pleaded with her explaining that it was a habit he did unconsciously. He said he would change. She relented and agreed to stay. While change wasn't easy the alternative didn't bear contemplating. He steadily built his self-esteem. He took the GED exam and put himself through college and law school.
Kathy has been by his side ever since, eventually becoming Bartmann's wife; they've been married now for 33 years. And, as further testament to her how savvy she is, she is his business partner, has been on the cover of Forbes and has been individually listed in the Forbes 400 wealthiest people in America. As you can tell Mrs Bartmann deserves a story of her own but back to Mr Bartmann.
It takes a diamond-hard resolve, an iron-clad self-esteem to endure the ups and downs that he has experienced and earn the respect that he has garnered from individuals as diverse as Mother Theresa, Mohammed Ali and Clarence Thomas (U.S. Supreme Court Justice).
Sure he's been tested. He's had his self-doubts, even bouts of depression - he wouldn't be human otherwise. However, when your self esteem is strong and when you are clear about your core values - the things you stand for and what you are unwilling to compromise on - then you bounce back from these lows. And each time you bounce back just a little bit higher.
Again, reinforcing the role that self-esteem or self-image plays in our ability to grow, one just needs to take a look at the content of Bartmann's seminars. He doesn't teach people about the stock market, real estate or any other way to generate income. His seminars take a different approach, a more fundamental approach. He knows and appreciates the importance of self-esteem and the powerful tools he teaches are equable applicable to life as they are to business.
He promises "no tear-jerking or any tugging at your emotions". Yet, how can you not be emotionally moved by his story and is it not by allowing ourselves to be swept away by the emotional charge of this "rags to riches" tale that gives us hope that we too can achieve great success in our lives?
Nickolove Lovemore is a Life & Success Coach and a Certified NLP Practitioner. Please visit http://www.SuccessAccessories.com for free ebook featuring some of the world's leaders in personal development who have learnt how to apply this success secret to their lives and are achieving phenomenal success.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Positive Self Talk - The Way You Talk To Yourself Can Determine How You Succeed
We hold a silent conversation with ourselves many times in the day. Some experts even said that we have these silent conversations for about 50.000 times a day. This “selftalk” has a direct effect on our thoughts and behaviors.
Self-talk is the inner monologue (and sometimes dialogue!) when confronted with a situation. What we silently say to ourselves about the events we experience influences us in many profound ways. Selftalk changes what we see and hear around us, what we feel within us, and what we remember when we look back on the experience.
Have you ever heard about self fulfilling prophecy? Self-talk is very much like a self-fulfilling prophecy—something you think about a lot can actually make it happen. When your self-talk is positive—“Things will work out,” “I know I can do the job”—you’re giving yourself permission to succeed and chances are you will. You ordered your subconscious mind to provide you all the resources to succeed. When your self-talk is negative—“I know I’ll have a terrible time,” “I’m not good enough to be a supervisor”—you’re giving up on yourself and chances are you won’t even try to succeed. Because you’ve ordered your subconscious mind to let go all the chances to succeed.
Self-talk can direct your thoughts and behavior. If you think, “I know I can do the job,” you’ll be more willing to apply. During the interview, you’ll be more likely to show confidence in yourself and your abilities, and have a better chance to succeed. But if you say to yourself, “I’ll never get hired for that position,” you may not even apply, guaranteeing that you won’t get the job.
So, it is very important to “rewrite” all negative self-talks with a positive ones. The idea is to erase the mental “tapes” you normally play for yourself when confronted with stress, and replace them with new ones.
There are several thought patterns that we usually have, especially the negative ones, such as:
1. Black or white thinking (You’re either perfect or a total failure!)
· I am from a small town and everyone else is from a larger city. No way can I compete with them
· Now it’s my turn. I have to show them how good I am.
2. Catastrophic Thinking (Exaggerating the significance of one single event!)
· This is the most embarrassing moment of my life!
· No one has ever insult me such a way as he’s just did to me!
3. Pessimistic Thinking (Seeing only the negatives and assuming the worst!)
· I’ve never have good friends before. What makes me think I can start now?
· I know I can’t do it! It’s just a waste of time.
4. Self-fulfilling Prophecy
· If I eat one serving of ice cream, I know Iwon’t be able to stop.
· I can’t start my daily activity without a cup of coffee.
5. Should Statements (Being ruled by a rigid set of rules!)
· I should have practiced more. Now the chance has gone.
· I shouldn't eat after 6:00 p.m. or else all the calories will turn to fat.
6. “It’s-not-my-fault” Thinking (Shifting responsibility for your behaviors!)
· If it wasn’t for her, I would be the one at that position.
· I can succeed if I have more time.
7. Mind Reading (Assuming people are thinking the worst about you!)
· No one would be interested in what I say
· See.. they’re all looking down on me.
8. Discounting (Can’t accept positive feedback!)
· Who does he think he is, trying to give me some advice? Huh?
· I know he is not trying to give me feedback. He’s trying to embarrass me during the meeting.
9. Comparing (Always comparing self to others!)
· No matter what I do, he will be always one step ahead!
· Yes, you can do it because you have more resources than me
The way to induce positive thinking and eliminate negative thinking is simple. First, you have to beware of your self-talk. If it is a negative self-talk, then STOP IT!! Say to yourself right away, “STOP!!”
Then replace the negative self-talk into positive ones. At first, maybe it will make us feel a little awkward. We cannot actually choose the words we are going to say everytime, even to ourselves, because it comes out just like that. It lies in our daily habit. But never mind, if we keep on practicing it, then soon a new habit will replace the old one.
Every habit can be learned. First, we form the habit, and later it forms us, and therefore forms our life. But the most important point is that it was previously formed by us. So, we can change it. It’s our choice. And surely it is our choice to walk path to success in every aspect of our life.
Self-talk is the inner monologue (and sometimes dialogue!) when confronted with a situation. What we silently say to ourselves about the events we experience influences us in many profound ways. Selftalk changes what we see and hear around us, what we feel within us, and what we remember when we look back on the experience.
Have you ever heard about self fulfilling prophecy? Self-talk is very much like a self-fulfilling prophecy—something you think about a lot can actually make it happen. When your self-talk is positive—“Things will work out,” “I know I can do the job”—you’re giving yourself permission to succeed and chances are you will. You ordered your subconscious mind to provide you all the resources to succeed. When your self-talk is negative—“I know I’ll have a terrible time,” “I’m not good enough to be a supervisor”—you’re giving up on yourself and chances are you won’t even try to succeed. Because you’ve ordered your subconscious mind to let go all the chances to succeed.
Self-talk can direct your thoughts and behavior. If you think, “I know I can do the job,” you’ll be more willing to apply. During the interview, you’ll be more likely to show confidence in yourself and your abilities, and have a better chance to succeed. But if you say to yourself, “I’ll never get hired for that position,” you may not even apply, guaranteeing that you won’t get the job.
So, it is very important to “rewrite” all negative self-talks with a positive ones. The idea is to erase the mental “tapes” you normally play for yourself when confronted with stress, and replace them with new ones.
There are several thought patterns that we usually have, especially the negative ones, such as:
1. Black or white thinking (You’re either perfect or a total failure!)
· I am from a small town and everyone else is from a larger city. No way can I compete with them
· Now it’s my turn. I have to show them how good I am.
2. Catastrophic Thinking (Exaggerating the significance of one single event!)
· This is the most embarrassing moment of my life!
· No one has ever insult me such a way as he’s just did to me!
3. Pessimistic Thinking (Seeing only the negatives and assuming the worst!)
· I’ve never have good friends before. What makes me think I can start now?
· I know I can’t do it! It’s just a waste of time.
4. Self-fulfilling Prophecy
· If I eat one serving of ice cream, I know Iwon’t be able to stop.
· I can’t start my daily activity without a cup of coffee.
5. Should Statements (Being ruled by a rigid set of rules!)
· I should have practiced more. Now the chance has gone.
· I shouldn't eat after 6:00 p.m. or else all the calories will turn to fat.
6. “It’s-not-my-fault” Thinking (Shifting responsibility for your behaviors!)
· If it wasn’t for her, I would be the one at that position.
· I can succeed if I have more time.
7. Mind Reading (Assuming people are thinking the worst about you!)
· No one would be interested in what I say
· See.. they’re all looking down on me.
8. Discounting (Can’t accept positive feedback!)
· Who does he think he is, trying to give me some advice? Huh?
· I know he is not trying to give me feedback. He’s trying to embarrass me during the meeting.
9. Comparing (Always comparing self to others!)
· No matter what I do, he will be always one step ahead!
· Yes, you can do it because you have more resources than me
The way to induce positive thinking and eliminate negative thinking is simple. First, you have to beware of your self-talk. If it is a negative self-talk, then STOP IT!! Say to yourself right away, “STOP!!”
Then replace the negative self-talk into positive ones. At first, maybe it will make us feel a little awkward. We cannot actually choose the words we are going to say everytime, even to ourselves, because it comes out just like that. It lies in our daily habit. But never mind, if we keep on practicing it, then soon a new habit will replace the old one.
Every habit can be learned. First, we form the habit, and later it forms us, and therefore forms our life. But the most important point is that it was previously formed by us. So, we can change it. It’s our choice. And surely it is our choice to walk path to success in every aspect of our life.
Positive Self Talk - The Way You Talk To Yourself Can Determine How You Succeed
We hold a silent conversation with ourselves many times in the day. Some experts even said that we have these silent conversations for about 50.000 times a day. This “selftalk” has a direct effect on our thoughts and behaviors.
Have you ever heard about self fulfilling prophecy? Self-talk is very much like a self-fulfilling prophecy—something you think about a lot can actually make it happen. When your self-talk is positive—“Things will work out,” “I know I can do the job”—you’re giving yourself permission to succeed and chances are you will. You ordered your subconscious mind to provide you all the resources to succeed. When your self-talk is negative—“I know I’ll have a terrible time,” “I’m not good enough to be a supervisor”—you’re giving up on yourself and chances are you won’t even try to succeed. Because you’ve ordered your subconscious mind to let go all the chances to succeed.
Self-talk can direct your thoughts and behavior. If you think, “I know I can do the job,” you’ll be more willing to apply. During the interview, you’ll be more likely to show confidence in yourself and your abilities, and have a better chance to succeed. But if you say to yourself, “I’ll never get hired for that position,” you may not even apply, guaranteeing that you won’t get the job.
So, it is very important to “rewrite” all negative self-talks with a positive ones. The idea is to erase the mental “tapes” you normally play for yourself when confronted with stress, and replace them with new ones.
1. Black or white thinking (You’re either perfect or a total failure!)
· I am from a small town and everyone else is from a larger city. No way can I compete with them
· Now it’s my turn. I have to show them how good I am.
2. Catastrophic Thinking (Exaggerating the significance of one single event!)
· This is the most embarrassing moment of my life!
· No one has ever insult me such a way as he’s just did to me!
3. Pessimistic Thinking (Seeing only the negatives and assuming the worst!)
· I’ve never have good friends before. What makes me think I can start now?
· I know I can’t do it! It’s just a waste of time.
4. Self-fulfilling Prophecy
· If I eat one serving of ice cream, I know Iwon’t be able to stop.
· I can’t start my daily activity without a cup of coffee.
5. Should Statements (Being ruled by a rigid set of rules!)
· I should have practiced more. Now the chance has gone.
· I shouldn't eat after
6. “It’s-not-my-fault” Thinking (Shifting responsibility for your behaviors!)
· If it wasn’t for her, I would be the one at that position.
· I can succeed if I have more time.
7. Mind Reading (Assuming people are thinking the worst about you!)
· No one would be interested in what I say
· See.. they’re all looking down on me.
8. Discounting (Can’t accept positive feedback!)
· Who does he think he is, trying to give me some advice? Huh?
· I know he is not trying to give me feedback. He’s trying to embarrass me during the meeting.
9. Comparing (Always comparing self to others!)
· No matter what I do, he will be always one step ahead!
· Yes, you can do it because you have more resources than me
The way to induce positive thinking and eliminate negative thinking is simple. First, you have to beware of your self-talk. If it is a negative self-talk, then STOP IT!! Say to yourself right away, “STOP!!”
Then replace the negative self-talk into positive ones. At first, maybe it will make us feel a little awkward. We cannot actually choose the words we are going to say everytime, even to ourselves, because it comes out just like that. It lies in our daily habit. But never mind, if we keep on practicing it, then soon a new habit will replace the old one.Every habit can be learned. First, we form the habit, and later it forms us, and therefore forms our life. But the most important point is that it was previously formed by us. So, we can change it. It’s our choice. And surely it is our choice to walk path to success in every aspect of our life.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Positive Self Talk
One of the most powerful influences on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your thoughts, feelings, and your actions. By controlling your inner dialogue, or your “self talk,” you can begin to assert control over every part of your life.
Your self-talk determines the majority of your emotional life. The words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and how you feel about external events, will trigger the emotions of happiness or unhappiness that you experience. When you see things positively and you look for the good in every situation and in each person, you will become a very positive and optimistic person. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel moment to moment, you should make it a habit to only think and talk about what you want and keep your mind off of what you don’t want.
You are constantly faced with challenges, difficulties, and problems every day of your life. They are unavoidable and one of the inevitable parts of being human. But as you draw upon your resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger person. When you look back over your life, you’ll see that you are the kind of person that you are because of all the difficulties and problems that you have had to overcome in your life. Without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know to developed the character and strength that you have at this point in your life.
Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. Having a positive mental attitude is indispensable for success and happiness. It is the key to success in business, and it is vital to building strong relationships with other people. Everyone wants to be around a positive person with a cheerful attitude towards life. But no one wants to be around a negative person who is always pessimistic about everything. Your ability to develop and maintain a positive mental attitude, no matter what the situation may be, will play a critical role in any success you achieve.
One of the best ways to define a positive mental attitude is having “a constructive and positive response to adversity.” It is only when you are confronted with a setback or adversity that you really know if you have a positive attitude or not. Anyone can be positive when things are going well. It is only when things are going against you, that you are able to demonstrate to yourself and others, that you have a positive character and personality.
One of the common characteristics of all high achieving men and women is that they recognize the inevitability of temporary setbacks and disappointments. They accept them as a normal and natural part of their life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when they come up, successful people learn from them and rise above them. They continue to move forward towards their goals.
Optimistic people develop the habit of talking to themselves in constructive ways. Whenever they experience adversity of any kind, they immediately describe it to themselves in a such a way that it looses its ability to trigger negative emotions. They are able to exert a sense of control by how they describe any event or situation to themselves.
There is a natural tendency in all of us to react emotionally when our expectations are frustrated in any way. When something we wanted and hoped for fails to materialize, we feel a temporary sense of disappointment and unhappiness. We feel hurt and disillusioned. We react just as though we had been punched in the “emotional solar plexus.”
A person who is positive and optimistic is resilient and bounces back fast when he or she encounters a problem or setback of any kind. He or she responds quickly to an adverse event and interprets it as being temporary and only external. An optimistic person takes full control of his or her inner dialogue and counters any negative feelings by immediately reframing the event so that appears positive in some way.
Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, if you deliberately choose the positive thought to dwell upon, you keep your mind optimistic and your emotions positive. Since your thoughts and feelings determine you actions, if you keep your words and thoughts positive, you will automatically be a more positive person and move more rapidly toward your goals.
It all comes down to the way you talk to yourself on a daily basis. When a problem or difficulty comes up you must learn to change your language from negative to positive. For example, you should learn to use the word situation instead of problem. A problem is something you wrestle and struggle with. It represents a potential loss and difficultly. A situation, on the other hand, is just something that you deal with. The event is the same. But the way you interpret the event to yourself is what makes it sound and appear completely different.
An even better word to substitute for problem is the word challenge. When you are faced with a difficulty of any kind, instead of saying, “I have a problem,” you should say, “I have an interesting challenge facing me.” The word challenge is inherently positive. It is something that you rise to and that makes you stronger. It is again the same situation, only the word that you are using to describe it is different. As a result, your emotional response will be different as well.
The best of all possible words for any event or situation is the word opportunity. When you are faced with a difficulty of any kind, instead of saying, “I have a problem,” you should say, “I am faced with an unexpected opportunity.” Within ever difficulty or problem, there lies the seed of an equal or greater opportunity or benefit. If you focus your attention on finding out what the valuable lesson is, you will always find it.
You should start your day in front of a mirror saying affirmations, such as “I like myself,” “I am the best,“ and “I can do it.” These are personal and positive affirmations that will build your levels of self confidence and self-esteem. You should say these affirmations out loud in front of a mirror at least 50 times a day. By doing this, you will be driving these new positive thoughts deep into your subconscious. At first when you do this, you’ll feel kind of funny doing it, only because your mind over many years has been programmed with so much negativity that it will take time to reprogram your mind with these new positive affirmations.
The hallmark of the truly successful and happy person is the ability to be objective and unemotional when caught up in the inevitable storms of daily life. The high achieving individual has the ability to continue talking to himself or herself in a positive and optimistic way no matter what the situation is. They are always calm, clear, and completely under control. As a result, they are able to exert a far greater sense of control and influence over their environment, and are less likely to be angry, upset, or distracted by problems or difficulties.
The starting point of becoming a more positive person is to monitor and control your self-talk every minute of the day. Keep your thoughts and words positive and consistent with your goals. Keep your mind focused on what you want and on becoming the person you want to be.
Remember that it is impossible to learn, grow and become successful without adversity and difficulties. You must rise above them in order to become a better person. So, welcome each difficulty as a learning experience and look into the situation to find something good or beneficial in it.
Always, keep your thoughts on your future and on your goals. Constantly think about the person you want to become. When things go wrong temporarily, respond by saying to yourself, “I believe in the perfect outcome of every situation in my life.” Resolve to be cheerful and pleasant in every situation. Resist every temptation to respond to a situation negatively. View disappointment as an opportunity to grow stronger, and talk to yourself and others about it in a positive and optimistic way.
When you practice positive self-talk, and keep your words and your mental pictures consistent with your goals, nothing can stop you from being the success you are meant to be.
Author: Joe Love
Copyright© 2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
Your self-talk determines the majority of your emotional life. The words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and how you feel about external events, will trigger the emotions of happiness or unhappiness that you experience. When you see things positively and you look for the good in every situation and in each person, you will become a very positive and optimistic person. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel moment to moment, you should make it a habit to only think and talk about what you want and keep your mind off of what you don’t want.
You are constantly faced with challenges, difficulties, and problems every day of your life. They are unavoidable and one of the inevitable parts of being human. But as you draw upon your resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger person. When you look back over your life, you’ll see that you are the kind of person that you are because of all the difficulties and problems that you have had to overcome in your life. Without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know to developed the character and strength that you have at this point in your life.
Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. Having a positive mental attitude is indispensable for success and happiness. It is the key to success in business, and it is vital to building strong relationships with other people. Everyone wants to be around a positive person with a cheerful attitude towards life. But no one wants to be around a negative person who is always pessimistic about everything. Your ability to develop and maintain a positive mental attitude, no matter what the situation may be, will play a critical role in any success you achieve.
One of the best ways to define a positive mental attitude is having “a constructive and positive response to adversity.” It is only when you are confronted with a setback or adversity that you really know if you have a positive attitude or not. Anyone can be positive when things are going well. It is only when things are going against you, that you are able to demonstrate to yourself and others, that you have a positive character and personality.
One of the common characteristics of all high achieving men and women is that they recognize the inevitability of temporary setbacks and disappointments. They accept them as a normal and natural part of their life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when they come up, successful people learn from them and rise above them. They continue to move forward towards their goals.
Optimistic people develop the habit of talking to themselves in constructive ways. Whenever they experience adversity of any kind, they immediately describe it to themselves in a such a way that it looses its ability to trigger negative emotions. They are able to exert a sense of control by how they describe any event or situation to themselves.
There is a natural tendency in all of us to react emotionally when our expectations are frustrated in any way. When something we wanted and hoped for fails to materialize, we feel a temporary sense of disappointment and unhappiness. We feel hurt and disillusioned. We react just as though we had been punched in the “emotional solar plexus.”
A person who is positive and optimistic is resilient and bounces back fast when he or she encounters a problem or setback of any kind. He or she responds quickly to an adverse event and interprets it as being temporary and only external. An optimistic person takes full control of his or her inner dialogue and counters any negative feelings by immediately reframing the event so that appears positive in some way.
Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, if you deliberately choose the positive thought to dwell upon, you keep your mind optimistic and your emotions positive. Since your thoughts and feelings determine you actions, if you keep your words and thoughts positive, you will automatically be a more positive person and move more rapidly toward your goals.
It all comes down to the way you talk to yourself on a daily basis. When a problem or difficulty comes up you must learn to change your language from negative to positive. For example, you should learn to use the word situation instead of problem. A problem is something you wrestle and struggle with. It represents a potential loss and difficultly. A situation, on the other hand, is just something that you deal with. The event is the same. But the way you interpret the event to yourself is what makes it sound and appear completely different.
An even better word to substitute for problem is the word challenge. When you are faced with a difficulty of any kind, instead of saying, “I have a problem,” you should say, “I have an interesting challenge facing me.” The word challenge is inherently positive. It is something that you rise to and that makes you stronger. It is again the same situation, only the word that you are using to describe it is different. As a result, your emotional response will be different as well.
The best of all possible words for any event or situation is the word opportunity. When you are faced with a difficulty of any kind, instead of saying, “I have a problem,” you should say, “I am faced with an unexpected opportunity.” Within ever difficulty or problem, there lies the seed of an equal or greater opportunity or benefit. If you focus your attention on finding out what the valuable lesson is, you will always find it.
You should start your day in front of a mirror saying affirmations, such as “I like myself,” “I am the best,“ and “I can do it.” These are personal and positive affirmations that will build your levels of self confidence and self-esteem. You should say these affirmations out loud in front of a mirror at least 50 times a day. By doing this, you will be driving these new positive thoughts deep into your subconscious. At first when you do this, you’ll feel kind of funny doing it, only because your mind over many years has been programmed with so much negativity that it will take time to reprogram your mind with these new positive affirmations.
The hallmark of the truly successful and happy person is the ability to be objective and unemotional when caught up in the inevitable storms of daily life. The high achieving individual has the ability to continue talking to himself or herself in a positive and optimistic way no matter what the situation is. They are always calm, clear, and completely under control. As a result, they are able to exert a far greater sense of control and influence over their environment, and are less likely to be angry, upset, or distracted by problems or difficulties.
The starting point of becoming a more positive person is to monitor and control your self-talk every minute of the day. Keep your thoughts and words positive and consistent with your goals. Keep your mind focused on what you want and on becoming the person you want to be.
Remember that it is impossible to learn, grow and become successful without adversity and difficulties. You must rise above them in order to become a better person. So, welcome each difficulty as a learning experience and look into the situation to find something good or beneficial in it.
Always, keep your thoughts on your future and on your goals. Constantly think about the person you want to become. When things go wrong temporarily, respond by saying to yourself, “I believe in the perfect outcome of every situation in my life.” Resolve to be cheerful and pleasant in every situation. Resist every temptation to respond to a situation negatively. View disappointment as an opportunity to grow stronger, and talk to yourself and others about it in a positive and optimistic way.
When you practice positive self-talk, and keep your words and your mental pictures consistent with your goals, nothing can stop you from being the success you are meant to be.
Author: Joe Love
Copyright© 2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
Sunday, May 27, 2007
15 Ways To Get Really Motivated
First, recognize that motivation is an inside job. The word motivate means to impel, inspire, hope, stimulate, incite, propel, spur, goad, move, induce, prompt, instigate, fire, provoke, actuate, cause, egg on, drive, excite, and to trigger. Don’t wait for someone to motivate you, here are 15 ways you can motivate yourself.
1. Set daily, weekly, monthly, yearly and lifetime goals. A goal is a goal if it’s writing. Goals get you going in the direction that’s right for you.
2. Listen to a motivational tape. Record into a tape recorder your favorite quotes, anecdotes and personal success stories. Play back your tape frequently. Nothing is more motivating than the sound of your own voice. Try it!
3. Get motivated to make better telephone calls by buying Art Sobczak’s new book, “How To Sell More In Less Time With No Rejection.” To order call Art at 402-895-9399.
4. To overachieve every quota you are given take this advice. First write yourself a check dated for 12/31/05 payable to yourself and write how much you want to earn on the amount line. Make three laminated copies and put one in your briefcase, auto console, and home office. Second, always aim higher than the quota you are given. If you adjust your aim, the results will follow.
5. Buy an inspirational book of quotations and keep it in your car. Read three quotes daily. Remember - inspirational words usually inspire us.
6. Invest 15 minutes daily to read books and articles about the selling profession. This is gourmet food for your brain. Don’t skip a day.
7. Get a mentor, preferably one outside of your company. The truly successful people never go it alone.
8. To jack-up your sales performance, prepare your own laminated cue cards. Create cue cards for making appointments, your 12 best questions, for handling the price objection, and for asking for the order. Each cue card should be prepared word-for-word. Your performances will sky-rocket.
9. Buy a composition notebook for your car. Record your successes, failures, and daily observations about your selling environment.
10. Read the “The Ancient Scrolls” an inspiring book by Tim Connor. To order call 800-222-9070.
11. To get motivated about improving your personal financial situation, set a personal net worth goal and write it on a spread sheet, then review it monthly. Self worth increases proportionately with net worth.
12. Tell your family if you achieve 110% or more of your annual sales quota - you’ll take them anywhere they want to go on vacation.
13. Tell your family when you reach a new monthly sales record milestone, you’ll take them out to celebrate.
14. Select one song that really gets you moving and play it every morning as you back out of your driveway.
15. Make a dinner date with your spouse tonight then go some place special.
Every day is a great day, especially if you don’t see your name in the obituary section of the paper.
It's easy to make every day a masterpiece when you're motivated.
(Jim Meisenheimer, http://www.meisenheimer.com/)
1. Set daily, weekly, monthly, yearly and lifetime goals. A goal is a goal if it’s writing. Goals get you going in the direction that’s right for you.
2. Listen to a motivational tape. Record into a tape recorder your favorite quotes, anecdotes and personal success stories. Play back your tape frequently. Nothing is more motivating than the sound of your own voice. Try it!
3. Get motivated to make better telephone calls by buying Art Sobczak’s new book, “How To Sell More In Less Time With No Rejection.” To order call Art at 402-895-9399.
4. To overachieve every quota you are given take this advice. First write yourself a check dated for 12/31/05 payable to yourself and write how much you want to earn on the amount line. Make three laminated copies and put one in your briefcase, auto console, and home office. Second, always aim higher than the quota you are given. If you adjust your aim, the results will follow.
5. Buy an inspirational book of quotations and keep it in your car. Read three quotes daily. Remember - inspirational words usually inspire us.
6. Invest 15 minutes daily to read books and articles about the selling profession. This is gourmet food for your brain. Don’t skip a day.
7. Get a mentor, preferably one outside of your company. The truly successful people never go it alone.
8. To jack-up your sales performance, prepare your own laminated cue cards. Create cue cards for making appointments, your 12 best questions, for handling the price objection, and for asking for the order. Each cue card should be prepared word-for-word. Your performances will sky-rocket.
9. Buy a composition notebook for your car. Record your successes, failures, and daily observations about your selling environment.
10. Read the “The Ancient Scrolls” an inspiring book by Tim Connor. To order call 800-222-9070.
11. To get motivated about improving your personal financial situation, set a personal net worth goal and write it on a spread sheet, then review it monthly. Self worth increases proportionately with net worth.
12. Tell your family if you achieve 110% or more of your annual sales quota - you’ll take them anywhere they want to go on vacation.
13. Tell your family when you reach a new monthly sales record milestone, you’ll take them out to celebrate.
14. Select one song that really gets you moving and play it every morning as you back out of your driveway.
15. Make a dinner date with your spouse tonight then go some place special.
Every day is a great day, especially if you don’t see your name in the obituary section of the paper.
It's easy to make every day a masterpiece when you're motivated.
(Jim Meisenheimer, http://www.meisenheimer.com/)
Saturday, May 5, 2007
10 Ways To Bring More Balance To Your Life
The World Health Organization has called stress a modern day epidemic affecting every person of every culture, educational status, and financial level across the world. Too much stress is the reason we end up sick and burned out. We know there must be something more than the hustle and bustle of modern-day life and yet forget to take the time to find our unique sense of balance.
Gandhi once said, “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” This is even more true in the modern world. It is essential then that you discover what will bring you a harmonious and balanced lifestyle. There are many ways to bring more balance to your life. Here are 10 ways I have found that work, which should get you thinking of even more uniquely suited to you.
1. Have Faith in a Higher Power
Voltaire once said, “Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe.” Having faith in a higher power helps you face even the darkest hours. Faith gives you peace of mind and an open heart. It lights the dark tunnel and allows you to walk forward courageously.
Action Step: Choose a favorite inspirational quote about faith and put it in your wallet.
2. Assess Your Life
Human beings are similar to a computer: we both operate on programming. What we put in, we get back. And if we put in or take on too much, we get overloaded, and then burn out. Assessing where you are now will help you to know what to do, where to go, and what to leave behind.
Action Step: List all the stressful events that have happened to you in the last year.
3. Live By Your Values
Choose to make life choices that stem from your core values---those things that feed your soul. Values are intrinsic beliefs and feelings that develop from our experiences, backgrounds, and culture. You will be pleasantly surprised to find that when your orient your life around your values that life is much more to your liking.
Action Step: Identify and define your top 5 values.
4. Develop Boundaries
Boundaries are physical, emotional, and spiritual barriers that keep us safe, protected and nurtured. Having healthy boundaries empowers us to say no when appropriate and attract what we want into our life and keep out “garbage.” Boundaries show others that you love, care, and value yourself.
Action Step: Set a clear boundary with someone close to you this week.
5. Change Your Self-Talk Balanced living requires balanced thinking. When negative thoughts come up, shut them out and focus on the positive. Your personal operating software is often running off of outdated and old tapes. Consciously create a new tape and upload it to your brain!
Action Step: Choose an affirmation that you love and say it out loud ten times every day.
6. Take Control You are in control of your own life. Nobody makes you stay in bad situations. If you are in a job you despise, an unhealthy relationship, do not wait until you get fired or dumped. Choose to change. Recognize the cause of your discontent and take action.
Action Step: Make a change for the better starting now.
7. Clean up and Clear Out
Your physical surroundings have a major impact on your sense of balance. So if you live and work in chaos and clutter, you will feel off center. Cleaning up and clearing out your personal (mind-set and relationships) and environmental (home, office, car) spaces brings instant rejuvenation.
Action Step: Tackle a drawer, closet, or garage by the end of the week.
8. Eliminate Tolerations
If you are like most, you are tolerating way too much. A toleration is anything that is stressing you, for example: things that are undone, incomplete projects, and toxic people, places, or situations. Eliminating tolerations is a great way to unleash stored energy and power.
Action Step: Eliminate 3 tolerations from your life today.
9. Practice Wellness
Wellness means having a holistic program (mind, body, and spirit). Take care of your body by eating healthy, getting regular exercise and enjoying rest. Nurture your heart and mind with good friends, fun adventures, and learning new things. Refresh your spirit by reading inspirational books, attending church, spending time in nature, etc.
Action Step: Do 3 extra things to take care of yourself this week.
10. Simplify Your Life
The key to live more simply is to downsize and release unnecessary things from your life. Simple living is about living deliberately. You choose your existence rather than sailing through life. It is about finding your unique balance. Simplicity asks: Is it right for me? How do I want to live my life?
Action Step: Write your philosophy of an ideal life, incorporating elements you most cherish.
There are many ways to bring balance to your life. It starts with making smart decisions and becoming more aware of what makes you happy. Stress is not going away anytime soon, so you may as well start today by creating a program to manage it. Discover what works best for you and commit to doing it on a daily basis. You will quickly learn that balance is not just a nice idea, but an actual reality!
(Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed., http://www.getsmartseries.com )
Gandhi once said, “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” This is even more true in the modern world. It is essential then that you discover what will bring you a harmonious and balanced lifestyle. There are many ways to bring more balance to your life. Here are 10 ways I have found that work, which should get you thinking of even more uniquely suited to you.
1. Have Faith in a Higher Power
Voltaire once said, “Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe.” Having faith in a higher power helps you face even the darkest hours. Faith gives you peace of mind and an open heart. It lights the dark tunnel and allows you to walk forward courageously.
Action Step: Choose a favorite inspirational quote about faith and put it in your wallet.
2. Assess Your Life
Human beings are similar to a computer: we both operate on programming. What we put in, we get back. And if we put in or take on too much, we get overloaded, and then burn out. Assessing where you are now will help you to know what to do, where to go, and what to leave behind.
Action Step: List all the stressful events that have happened to you in the last year.
3. Live By Your Values
Choose to make life choices that stem from your core values---those things that feed your soul. Values are intrinsic beliefs and feelings that develop from our experiences, backgrounds, and culture. You will be pleasantly surprised to find that when your orient your life around your values that life is much more to your liking.
Action Step: Identify and define your top 5 values.
4. Develop Boundaries
Boundaries are physical, emotional, and spiritual barriers that keep us safe, protected and nurtured. Having healthy boundaries empowers us to say no when appropriate and attract what we want into our life and keep out “garbage.” Boundaries show others that you love, care, and value yourself.
Action Step: Set a clear boundary with someone close to you this week.
5. Change Your Self-Talk Balanced living requires balanced thinking. When negative thoughts come up, shut them out and focus on the positive. Your personal operating software is often running off of outdated and old tapes. Consciously create a new tape and upload it to your brain!
Action Step: Choose an affirmation that you love and say it out loud ten times every day.
6. Take Control You are in control of your own life. Nobody makes you stay in bad situations. If you are in a job you despise, an unhealthy relationship, do not wait until you get fired or dumped. Choose to change. Recognize the cause of your discontent and take action.
Action Step: Make a change for the better starting now.
7. Clean up and Clear Out
Your physical surroundings have a major impact on your sense of balance. So if you live and work in chaos and clutter, you will feel off center. Cleaning up and clearing out your personal (mind-set and relationships) and environmental (home, office, car) spaces brings instant rejuvenation.
Action Step: Tackle a drawer, closet, or garage by the end of the week.
8. Eliminate Tolerations
If you are like most, you are tolerating way too much. A toleration is anything that is stressing you, for example: things that are undone, incomplete projects, and toxic people, places, or situations. Eliminating tolerations is a great way to unleash stored energy and power.
Action Step: Eliminate 3 tolerations from your life today.
9. Practice Wellness
Wellness means having a holistic program (mind, body, and spirit). Take care of your body by eating healthy, getting regular exercise and enjoying rest. Nurture your heart and mind with good friends, fun adventures, and learning new things. Refresh your spirit by reading inspirational books, attending church, spending time in nature, etc.
Action Step: Do 3 extra things to take care of yourself this week.
10. Simplify Your Life
The key to live more simply is to downsize and release unnecessary things from your life. Simple living is about living deliberately. You choose your existence rather than sailing through life. It is about finding your unique balance. Simplicity asks: Is it right for me? How do I want to live my life?
Action Step: Write your philosophy of an ideal life, incorporating elements you most cherish.
There are many ways to bring balance to your life. It starts with making smart decisions and becoming more aware of what makes you happy. Stress is not going away anytime soon, so you may as well start today by creating a program to manage it. Discover what works best for you and commit to doing it on a daily basis. You will quickly learn that balance is not just a nice idea, but an actual reality!
(Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed., http://www.getsmartseries.com )
Finding Ways To Save Time And Accomplish More Toward Goals
A definition of time management might be a process of gaining flexibility and cutting back time. The advantage to having a time management plan is that we are loosing something that brings us reward and gaining something that brings us bigger rewards. We end up with a “no loosing” situation if our time management plan is right.
To develop a successful time management plan we must first evaluate our time. We must sit down and ask ourselves how long does it take us to eat? How long does it take us to get dressed and groom for work? How long does it take us to prepare the meals we have to eat? Everything we do takes a certain amount of time. You might start out by writing down just how much time it takes to do each of your very have to tasks each day.
Then sit back and evaluate your list. Are you wasting 10 minutes here and there on those have to items that could be used for something else?
Where our time goes is an essential element to determine for our entire time management plan if we want to begin spending more quality with the most important people of our lives and less wasted time on some routine task. This is the absolute first step of creating your own personalized time management plan, a time management plan that will allow your more time to do the things in life that are most important to you. You must determine where you are wasting time and then decide how to use that time more effectively. Once that time is lost, there is no calling it back.
Another important element of creating a successful time management plan is to be sure and finish tasks before moving onto another task, unless you are at work, in a job that requires doing multiple tasks at one time (multi-tasking). Once you finish one task, move onto the next task and follow in pursuit of finishing all tasks. Once you finish the last task, sit back for a moment in a comfortable position and think of what you accomplished. How much time did it take you to complete task? Don’t forget to be keeping down your start time and end time. Of course this type of listing time of tasks works best for those things you do as routine each day. You want to work on completing the tasks in as little time as possible so you that you have to add in the unexpected tasks of the day or…….much better…….so that you have time to do something you really, really want to do, something that is not routinely required of you to do. For example, like visit on the phone with a favorite friend, your daughter or mother, or whoever, read some in the books you want to complete at some point or another in your lifetime.
A successful time management plan provides us with a source for more flexible schedules. When we have flexibility we have more time for ourselves. Once you have determined your priorities for time usage, then you can start adding tasks that you been putting off because you just don’t have the time to do them. So….you now need another list of goals and plans of tasks and things you want to do but never have the time to do. One of the best ways of keeping these lists is on your computer where you can quickly erase and add to. But then again, paper in a notebook is also good, perhaps a special book.
Time management is the process of working to succeed. When we work to succeed we reach our goals. We first have to decide what those goals are, of course, and then work toward them using our time management plan. You will probably have to sit down and really ponder on what is needed to reach each goal of set of goals, and of course, decide how much time each step of the way you will need. Some people like to set short term goals, reach that goal and then set a long term goal. It might be a better plan to try and set short and long-term goals in the same time management plan. Whichever way works best for you, however, is what you should do.
Time management is essential since it demands that a person plan, act on those plans and stay focused on those goals with motivation. You must also keep reality in mind, and plan for the things out of your control that could go wrong and therefore steal time from your time management plan. Some examples would be computer failures, family illness, personal illness, inches and inches of snow and ice, horrible sudden tornados and hurricanes. It is always wise to include elements of your time management plan in accordance to what could happen out of your control. You may want to have a plan ahead of time of using your time in some other manner if your computer fails. Catch up on your paper filing or something. Right now for me, I am experiencing an internet outage. I have groomed many more Shih Tzu than the usual today in the time I usually spend answering e-mails and working on my websites.
Time management is working to succeed. If you want to succeed then you must work hard every day to meet your goals. I recently cut down my preparing and eating breakfast time by about ten minutes. Instead of my usual meal, I now mix up a Zone Shake and drink it while doing some other chore like adding to or emptying out the dishwasher, or even while opening up my daily e-mails. In reality here I am using ten extra minutes to work on my goals, rather than preparing and eating a regular breakfast.
(Connie Limon, http://www.selfimprovementbook1.com )
To develop a successful time management plan we must first evaluate our time. We must sit down and ask ourselves how long does it take us to eat? How long does it take us to get dressed and groom for work? How long does it take us to prepare the meals we have to eat? Everything we do takes a certain amount of time. You might start out by writing down just how much time it takes to do each of your very have to tasks each day.
Then sit back and evaluate your list. Are you wasting 10 minutes here and there on those have to items that could be used for something else?
Where our time goes is an essential element to determine for our entire time management plan if we want to begin spending more quality with the most important people of our lives and less wasted time on some routine task. This is the absolute first step of creating your own personalized time management plan, a time management plan that will allow your more time to do the things in life that are most important to you. You must determine where you are wasting time and then decide how to use that time more effectively. Once that time is lost, there is no calling it back.
Another important element of creating a successful time management plan is to be sure and finish tasks before moving onto another task, unless you are at work, in a job that requires doing multiple tasks at one time (multi-tasking). Once you finish one task, move onto the next task and follow in pursuit of finishing all tasks. Once you finish the last task, sit back for a moment in a comfortable position and think of what you accomplished. How much time did it take you to complete task? Don’t forget to be keeping down your start time and end time. Of course this type of listing time of tasks works best for those things you do as routine each day. You want to work on completing the tasks in as little time as possible so you that you have to add in the unexpected tasks of the day or…….much better…….so that you have time to do something you really, really want to do, something that is not routinely required of you to do. For example, like visit on the phone with a favorite friend, your daughter or mother, or whoever, read some in the books you want to complete at some point or another in your lifetime.
A successful time management plan provides us with a source for more flexible schedules. When we have flexibility we have more time for ourselves. Once you have determined your priorities for time usage, then you can start adding tasks that you been putting off because you just don’t have the time to do them. So….you now need another list of goals and plans of tasks and things you want to do but never have the time to do. One of the best ways of keeping these lists is on your computer where you can quickly erase and add to. But then again, paper in a notebook is also good, perhaps a special book.
Time management is the process of working to succeed. When we work to succeed we reach our goals. We first have to decide what those goals are, of course, and then work toward them using our time management plan. You will probably have to sit down and really ponder on what is needed to reach each goal of set of goals, and of course, decide how much time each step of the way you will need. Some people like to set short term goals, reach that goal and then set a long term goal. It might be a better plan to try and set short and long-term goals in the same time management plan. Whichever way works best for you, however, is what you should do.
Time management is essential since it demands that a person plan, act on those plans and stay focused on those goals with motivation. You must also keep reality in mind, and plan for the things out of your control that could go wrong and therefore steal time from your time management plan. Some examples would be computer failures, family illness, personal illness, inches and inches of snow and ice, horrible sudden tornados and hurricanes. It is always wise to include elements of your time management plan in accordance to what could happen out of your control. You may want to have a plan ahead of time of using your time in some other manner if your computer fails. Catch up on your paper filing or something. Right now for me, I am experiencing an internet outage. I have groomed many more Shih Tzu than the usual today in the time I usually spend answering e-mails and working on my websites.
Time management is working to succeed. If you want to succeed then you must work hard every day to meet your goals. I recently cut down my preparing and eating breakfast time by about ten minutes. Instead of my usual meal, I now mix up a Zone Shake and drink it while doing some other chore like adding to or emptying out the dishwasher, or even while opening up my daily e-mails. In reality here I am using ten extra minutes to work on my goals, rather than preparing and eating a regular breakfast.
(Connie Limon, http://www.selfimprovementbook1.com )
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